There comes a time in every curlie's life when she must decide if she should chemically relax her hair. Sometimes this happens shortly after she's 'transitioned' from relaxed hair and finds her hair to be new and uncharted territory. This can happen when she's just plain old sick of the frizz and bulk.

My girlfriend, a newbie to the curly circuit found the growth of her natural hair a bit more than she thought she can handle and so decided to have her hair 'bio softened' (which is just fancy for texturized) at Christo's Fifth Avenue.

The treatment isn't cheap, however I would urge any person contemplating using chemicals to alter her hair to seek out professional help (I mean a stylist!) to minimize any damage. She quickly learned that her 4b texture hair takes chemicals very quickly and as she gained the length she missed she found her hair to be a new texture unlike the natural and relaxed and has to learn a new cocktail to make it work.

Here is a direct quote: "I feel like a white woman with a biracial child. lol I am clueless as to what to do. Part of me thinks it was easier BEFORE the silkner - at least it wasn't stringy then... now it's stringy, yet bushy/frizzy, looks dry, these products they gave me make my hair feel dry, and it's just not what I expected. But I have length.... not sure if that makes up for the other stuff."

I don't blame her, when I first went natural I felt my hair was too thick to manage and started texturizing. I had to cut all of my hair and start over, this time I decided the only chemicals I will put in my hair are the ones I can rinse out. Everyone has to decide for themselves how they want their hair to look. It's all up to you, and if you don't like it, you can cut it and start over!